Alcohol and some drugs can make you feel sexy. But they can also make you sloppy. Every time you have unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse, you can get or spread viruses. It’s easy when you’re drunk or high to sometimes live in the moment and forget to protect yourself. To make safe sex easier, always carry condoms with you. Fucking with a condom reduces the risk of getting or spreading HIV and most other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). You can pick up free condoms at your local AIDS agency or community health clinic.

HIV travels in blood (including menstrual blood), cum (semen) and pre-cum, pussy juices (vaginal fluids) and breast milk. So if you have HIV, you won’t want any of your fluids to get into your partner’s body. You also won’t want any of your partner’s fluids to get into your body, because you could get infected with a different type of HIV that could be harder to treat than the one you have. This is called “re-infection.” It could limit your treatment choices and make you sick.

Practicing safe sex is a form of harm reduction.

High-risk sex: unprotected vaginal and anal sex (fucking and butt-fucking)

• every time you have sex, use a latex condom or the female condom
• use a water-based lubricant, such as K-Y Jelly. Lubes that contain oil (Crisco, Vaseline, baby oil, lotion) can destroy latex.
• fucking and getting fucked are both high risk

Lower-risk sex: unprotected oral sex (going down on someone)

• it’s a good idea to use non-lubricated condoms for blowjobs and dams for eating pussy, to lower the risk of getting other STDs
• when rimming (ass-licking), use a dam over the asshole, to prevent STDs, hepatitis A and parasites
• to make a dam, cut a condom lengthwise or use a piece of non-microwavable plastic wrap. Don’t reuse it.

No-risk sex: wet kissing, massages, hugging, mutual masturbation, tit fucking, dry fucking

• don’t share sex toys

STIs (sexually transmitted infections)

When you have unprotected sex, you risk getting a number of other STIs (sexually transmitted infections) besides HIV — such as herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis and human papilloma virus (HPV), which can lead to cervical or anal cancer. If you have any of these diseases, you can spread them to someone else during sex.

There is a huge connection between HIV and STIDs:

• Having an STID puts you at greater risk of spreading or getting HIV.
• Having HIV makes it easier to get other STIs and harder to treat them.

If you think you have an STI, get tested and treated right away.